So, sitting here watching "are you smarter than a 5th grader" on a Friday night (because I have nothing to do & its cold as hell outside). Lol. But enough about that. Being single and I'm headed home I started thinking about what I would be doing with my cousins. Then I started thinking of their lifestyles.
Don't get me wrong, I love my family & would fight for them to the end, but I must admit I'm a little worried by my thoughts.
So as you know, whenever something happens in the family, there will be a trail of phone calls letting everyone know what "done happen".
I look at my cousins lives and immediately think damn! I wish I could be that careless and carefree. Sometoimes, I just don't want responsibility.
I want to pay (at most) $100 for rent for a 3 bedroom. I want to not have to worry about bills. I don't want to work and sit on my ass all day and send my kids off to school and have my entire day to myself just to do nothing.
And almost every time I come home, they always keep a man! Lol! Sorry men. And they're always getting "paper" and not having to pay bills.
I'm like damn!
Sometimes I wish, I had no morals and just don't give a damn! I don't want responsibility and I can't relly on pure ignorance as my excuse because I'm "educated" & I "should know better". Sometimes I'm like "damn me for wanting better" lol!
So am I envious or just hating?
I would say, I am a little envious that I can't pay $100 for rent. I'm envious that I can't sit on my ass and do nothing all day!
I am a little envious that I don't have a guy to pay my bills.
Here's my take on it. I love them for being them and I love them because they're family and I wish them the best.
But I'm single by choice! Lol. Nope I wouldn't trade my life or current situation. For nothing.
I look @ all the things that some women go through for those $100 for rent. Wow! When I hear stories I laugh & they do but I think they want to cry. They're dependent on these men & when you see them, I'm rolling on the floor. Can you say WTF!
Not exactly what I would bring home to mama, but they do.
Yup I can't wait to go home and cry from laughter.
Also, since its the holidays I have to put up with all the questions from "the elders" of the family. "When are you getting married, where's your man, when are you going to have children", and
this one gets me every time "do you like men" lol. The answer is yes, I love men. I just rather have myself established first before I enter into a relationship. So now I'm going home I hope I don't get into my "envious/hating" mode lol!
Tell me what you think.
Friday, December 18, 2009
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Mood Changes
As Kanye said it best, "I'm just trying to change the color of your mood ring". When I heard that I was like, "yeah right", but as I began to think about it, yeah a person can change your mood.
Prime example, I was feeling down last night (mainly because of my location) and then I had a conversation with a friend and it totally changed my mood. Not just any old conversation, like the one with your girlfriend and you laugh at what happen to her or you share informaiton on how the date went, I'm talking about a conversation with a man. Not just any man, but a man you know that has his act together.
During this conversation, I was smiling, laughing and just doing the Flinstones (having a gay old time. Warning: from time to time you'll hear me mention a movie or a song to explain the situation or how I'm feeling, etc). Instantly, my mood changed. I forgot it was snowing outside, I forgot it was cold.
I wonder why that is? Maybe being single for so long and finally getting some male attention was needed. Of course I have male friends, but all of them are ugly to me (note: they're not ugly, I just don't see them in that way). This causes me to think about "why my mood changed". Why I would love to talk to him more and why I just.....don't know....
Here I am in my "Grinch" mood for the holiday and this "who from Whoville" comes in singing the "who song" and my heart grew 3X larger. So we have a name for this person: his name is "Cindy Lou Who".
Let's analyze Cindy shall we:
Cindy Details:
1. He's tall
2. Great Teeth (I checked them out and I'm really into a guy with great dental hygene).
3. He's smart
4. He always veiws the glass as half full
5. He's supper sweet
6. Plus he's very attractive
These are just a few of my many "details" that I like in a guy. I could go on and on, but I'm not.
So what is it about Cindy Lou Who that makes the Grinches heart grow. It's his innocense. He's guinine and overall a good and caring guy. He has no angles or games to be played. He's just nice and really wants to help and just a great guy. That's what I'm attracted to. I'm really glad to have him as a friend!
That's it!!! That's what changed my mood! Here's a guy that's nice, genuine, don't want anything sexually, just a GREAT friend. That's what changed my mood. I feel so comfortable with him that I could tell him anything about me. He makes me want to be a better friend to him and all of my friends because he's a great friend to me.
So ladies, if you want your mood changed for the better, have a great friend around (male or female). A lot of my female friends change my mood as well. We "network"and discuss various topics that are funny, serious, etc. I love them for that. Maybe I focused on Cindy because he's handsome to me...yeah that's it.
I'm leaving with a joke, I hope you enjoy it...until next time...
Singlely Yours,
The Former Grinch (for today)
The Joke:
There was a turtle strolling along the street
then all of a sudden he was attacked by 2 snails
when the police officer came along he asked the turtle what happened
the turtle replied: "I don't know officer, it happened so fast"
ROTF!!!!!
Prime example, I was feeling down last night (mainly because of my location) and then I had a conversation with a friend and it totally changed my mood. Not just any old conversation, like the one with your girlfriend and you laugh at what happen to her or you share informaiton on how the date went, I'm talking about a conversation with a man. Not just any man, but a man you know that has his act together.
During this conversation, I was smiling, laughing and just doing the Flinstones (having a gay old time. Warning: from time to time you'll hear me mention a movie or a song to explain the situation or how I'm feeling, etc). Instantly, my mood changed. I forgot it was snowing outside, I forgot it was cold.
I wonder why that is? Maybe being single for so long and finally getting some male attention was needed. Of course I have male friends, but all of them are ugly to me (note: they're not ugly, I just don't see them in that way). This causes me to think about "why my mood changed". Why I would love to talk to him more and why I just.....don't know....
Here I am in my "Grinch" mood for the holiday and this "who from Whoville" comes in singing the "who song" and my heart grew 3X larger. So we have a name for this person: his name is "Cindy Lou Who".
Let's analyze Cindy shall we:
Cindy Details:
1. He's tall
2. Great Teeth (I checked them out and I'm really into a guy with great dental hygene).
3. He's smart
4. He always veiws the glass as half full
5. He's supper sweet
6. Plus he's very attractive
These are just a few of my many "details" that I like in a guy. I could go on and on, but I'm not.
So what is it about Cindy Lou Who that makes the Grinches heart grow. It's his innocense. He's guinine and overall a good and caring guy. He has no angles or games to be played. He's just nice and really wants to help and just a great guy. That's what I'm attracted to. I'm really glad to have him as a friend!
That's it!!! That's what changed my mood! Here's a guy that's nice, genuine, don't want anything sexually, just a GREAT friend. That's what changed my mood. I feel so comfortable with him that I could tell him anything about me. He makes me want to be a better friend to him and all of my friends because he's a great friend to me.
So ladies, if you want your mood changed for the better, have a great friend around (male or female). A lot of my female friends change my mood as well. We "network"and discuss various topics that are funny, serious, etc. I love them for that. Maybe I focused on Cindy because he's handsome to me...yeah that's it.
I'm leaving with a joke, I hope you enjoy it...until next time...
Singlely Yours,
The Former Grinch (for today)
The Joke:
There was a turtle strolling along the street
then all of a sudden he was attacked by 2 snails
when the police officer came along he asked the turtle what happened
the turtle replied: "I don't know officer, it happened so fast"
ROTF!!!!!
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
My First Entry
Hello All who are reading this. I am, as you guessed by the title, a single female. I decided to start this blog because a good friend of mines suggested that I start to write things down and that she enjoys reading whatever I write.
I must admit, I do have a hilarious take on a lot of things, but I didn't know that people actually enjoy my comical yet humorous advice.
At first, I was like "who blogs", but I see this as a challenge so here we go.
1. This blog will become like a diary to me, I'm not going to keep things a secret and if I want it to be one, then I just won't post it.
2. I'm going to use this as therapy, not that I need it, but everyone needs to vent every now and then.
3. I am starting on a journey and by the end of it, I hope to learn all that I was suppose to.
This blog will contain everything that I usually deal with with being a single woman. I will not just focus on the "single life", but other issues that I deal with as well.
I will not expose any names, unless I'm really pissed :), but confidentiality is the key. I will use "nick names" like Flava Flav (if that's how you spell it). I've been using these names to identify the men in my and my friend's lives so I can keep track of the conversations about men with my various friends.
This will not be a she woman man hating club, but just about things that I've experience in my day to day single life. I'm constantly asking myself, why did I start this blog around the holidays. Well, it's the holidays that forces you to realize that you're single. So with me, I use to have a tough time with that, but I don't anymore. Every now and then, the emotions comes back, but then.... I don't know.
There will be some happy days, sad days, some "wtf" days and "did he really say that or did she/I really do that".
So sit back and relax and buckle your seat belts and come along on this journey with me. I hope to get advice about situations and I want total honesty from people who actually care, not from people who just read other people's blog to put them down because they're unhappy with themselves therefore they try to make others feel bad....(went on a tangent there, got to get back on track). So yeah, there you have it in a nutshell.
(and for those who are looking at the time, I'm on my lunch break :))
I must admit, I do have a hilarious take on a lot of things, but I didn't know that people actually enjoy my comical yet humorous advice.
At first, I was like "who blogs", but I see this as a challenge so here we go.
1. This blog will become like a diary to me, I'm not going to keep things a secret and if I want it to be one, then I just won't post it.
2. I'm going to use this as therapy, not that I need it, but everyone needs to vent every now and then.
3. I am starting on a journey and by the end of it, I hope to learn all that I was suppose to.
This blog will contain everything that I usually deal with with being a single woman. I will not just focus on the "single life", but other issues that I deal with as well.
I will not expose any names, unless I'm really pissed :), but confidentiality is the key. I will use "nick names" like Flava Flav (if that's how you spell it). I've been using these names to identify the men in my and my friend's lives so I can keep track of the conversations about men with my various friends.
This will not be a she woman man hating club, but just about things that I've experience in my day to day single life. I'm constantly asking myself, why did I start this blog around the holidays. Well, it's the holidays that forces you to realize that you're single. So with me, I use to have a tough time with that, but I don't anymore. Every now and then, the emotions comes back, but then.... I don't know.
There will be some happy days, sad days, some "wtf" days and "did he really say that or did she/I really do that".
So sit back and relax and buckle your seat belts and come along on this journey with me. I hope to get advice about situations and I want total honesty from people who actually care, not from people who just read other people's blog to put them down because they're unhappy with themselves therefore they try to make others feel bad....(went on a tangent there, got to get back on track). So yeah, there you have it in a nutshell.
(and for those who are looking at the time, I'm on my lunch break :))
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